Finding the Happy Sunshine: My Realization about Happiness
For the whole month of June, I went through a lot. I was unhappy to the core. But, there were ample reason to smile, to celebrate, to be happy. April spent with super fun participating and representing my efforts as A to Z blog posts. After that, came the most awaited festival. Blogchatter EBook Carnival 2020. The ebook was launched at the carnival and afterwards, it started being well received by our blogger friends. So, the dream I saw months back turned into a reality. That’s enough to make someone truly Happy, isn’t it?
But I was not Happy at all. In fact, I stopped counting the number of copies downloaded. I stopped talking about my book with my friends. I stopped posting reviews of my book, only shared them with my inner circle.
After suffering for months, my mom was recovering from June. I made a quilled artwork with her to capture the essence of long awaited happiness in the house. So it was another reason to be happy. As I saw my mom smiling after four months! I framed her smile with a quilled artwork and named it the ‘Happy Sunshine’.
But, after this all, I was not happy. Not at all. I cried at night when everyone went to sleep. I cried for the whole night shedding tears. And the whole day I spent crying inside. With me, I saw, the happy sunshine became sad too. I kept it inside the closet, just like my smile was disappeared somewhere. As if my happiness was locked into the closet of unending sadness.
Why? You may wonder, why I was that ‘Unhappy’??
Because something happened that was completely unpredictable for me. Something that I couldn’t accept, not even in my deadliest nightmare. Something, that made my world upside down.
With each passing day, I saw myself sinking deep into the grief of depression. Most importantly, I stopped loving myself. Life was not that adventurous any more.
Until I found a bang!
June was a month when we were having a series of negative vibes around the world. So, I was constantly receiving negative vibes, both from inside and outside. That’s enough to push you towards a world of grief, depression, stress, and anxiety. It was not an exception for me too. But, amidst everything negative, I found a positive one. That was, being positive from inside and spreading that positivity to the outer world.
I was unhappy because I focused on the negative things only. I remembered the things I lost, the people who betrayed me, how I received ignorance from my dear ones, how I missed the opportunities, how I did mistakes, how my innocence was fooled, and what will never come back to me. I focused on the things I didn’t have. In this dramatic period of unhappiness, I completely forgot to welcome the things I already have. And here is the truth I realized very soon.
“Happiness lies in welcoming all the colours of happiness in your world and celebrating them to celebrate the melody of life. Happiness is showering love to the life’s blessings to you.”
So, after finding the key to happiness, I started working on myself. And gradually, I started recovering from the unhappy state of mind.
Here is the list of things I did in June to keep myself positive and happy from inside:
1. Writing Positive Quote:
I wrote a positive quote everyday and posted it on social media and eventually, shared it with everyone so that others could receive the good vibes too. Thus, I created a chain of positivity.
2. Introspection is Therapeutic:
I started talking to my inner self more. I found introspection is therapeutic. To calm the anxiety, I keep telling myself what I really want and what I really DON’T want. Keeping a track what you don’t like to do is more important than checking up for the things that matter to you. Because this way, you can keep yourself away from the unnecessary burdens around you.
3. Finding Solace in Spirituality:
I found peace in the realm of spirituality. I started reading spiritual books, at least one page a day.
4. Love Yourself:
Loving myself was hard but I tried my best. I embraced the flaws of mine, I accepted the reality and the fact that I can’t change it. Letting go is the most difficult in such phase. But, after a lots of effort when I really embraced the art of letting go, I felt lighter.
5. Let It Go:
There are some things that hold really no meaning at all. They hold no purpose. A bad chapter is not the whole story of you. It’s just, a chapter with sad ending. And ending is always a new beginning, too. Letting go of the past is the best way to welcome the future in your life. When you live the present to the fullest, only then you live life with the note of happiness.
6. Rule Your Life:
Never let others to control your life and your mind. It’s your life, take responsibility and make peace with your choice. Whatever happens, it always happens for a certain reason. Whether it’s a learning experience for you or it’s there to lead you ahead. When you become a master of your own, you can live a life full of happiness.
7. Surround Yourself with Positivity:
Try to surround yourself with positive people, positive news, positive books and everything that brings positivity to you. Remember, it’s an important lesson for life. When you surround positivity, your mind will find peace and it will reflect positive vibes to you.
8. Try to seek positivity in every little thing you have in this moment. Be it little, but it can impact well on your mind. Life has always something to celebrate. You have to find it.
9. Find Hope:
Hope is always there with you. Every day begins with a new promise of hope. So, start your day with a note of positivity and seek happiness in every little thing you have.
10. Find the Peace Within:
Finding the peace within is the key to happiness. When you’re going through a phase where you face only negative things and you wonder about the purpose, the meaning of your life, try to dive deep inside the sea of emptiness. It will echo the answer you have been searching for long. As I found the key to bang on.
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So, it was my own realization about Happiness. As I realized these amazing happiness tricks, I saw, strangely, the Happy Sunshine was back to smile. I brought it to open air and I felt like it whispered,
“Happiness is celebrating every little beauty you have around, right here, right now. Happiness is finding the peace within. Happiness is to define happiness in your own way, absolutely.”
I smiled and kept it on my bedside table. Now, I wake up saying a Hello to Life everyday. With me, I see the happy sunshine also smiles and starts to dance with the rhythm of life.
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This post is written as a response to the SpeakEasy Blogging Challenge which is being hosted by Dipika Singh and Ruchi Verma. We are a bunch of bloggers who have joined their hands to define Happiness in our own ways and celebrate the word Happiness together. The purpose of the blogging challenge is to spread positivity all over through defining the meaning of Happiness.
41 responses to “Finding the Happy Sunshine: My realization about Happiness”
So purely thought & expressed. Loved every word💜 Keep Shining ✨
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Thank you so much for stopping by. Means a lot to me 🙂
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Swarnali, I feel like coming and giving you a tight hug. You poured your heart out in this post. So much of positivity and good vibes. “Keeping a track what you don’t like to do is more important than checking up for the things that matter to you” thats my mantra always. Don’t concentrate in Don’t. Pay attention towards the Dos and this small change in our attitude is the answer to all the sufferings.
Stay blessed!! Accept my virtual hugs!!
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Thank you so much dear Alpana. A big hug to you too. Actually am now keeping the track of things I really don’t want in my life. Also, people whom I don’t want to have in my life. This way I am staying away from the negative vibes. This helps me to receive mental strength to walk ahead. Thanks for your love dear. Means much! 🙂
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Feeling sad when everything is alright is so human. Relax, right now most of the people are having anxiety issue. Its great that you have found ways to be happy.
I write a gratitude journal every night before i sleep, it helps a lot.
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Yes it really helps. Thanks for stopping by Ujjwal.
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Swarnail I am glad that you could fight with that drake phase of yours by bring the hope of sunshine in you life. I feel we will not value happiness if we have not faced sadness. So find happiness is everything.
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Thank you so much. Yes finding happiness in little things bring happiness to the soul. Thanks for stopping by. Means much!
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I meant dark
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Hey Swarnali I am glad you won over your anxiety and chose to spread positive vibes. I agree when we share positive, we get the share too. Your quotes were lovely. Quilling art piece is great.
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Thank you Upasna! Glad you liked our quilled artwork. 🙂
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I m so glad you dear you had find the ways to dealing with gloomy state of mind. I agree that last few months had been hard for all of us and we all had faced negative vibes from all around the world. Recently I had started listening sadguru and his speeches always remind me your spiritual advice . You are absolutely right dear, we all have an immense power inside us but we did not able to recognize it, but when we realized it, we get a sense of inner peace and happiness.
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Absolutely. Finding the peace within is the best way to find happiness. Thanks for stopping by. 🙂
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I am so glad you found peace & happiness within you. You are a fighter and difficult times are true teachers. I loved your honesty.
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Thank you Aesha. Thanks for reading 🙂
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I am so glad you shared this Swarnali and I am even more glad that you have overcome the phase all of us go through at times. It is ok to feel low sometimes but to get back is what is ideal. Love and hugs to you darling
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Thank you dearest buddy.. Yes dear only we can rise again and fight back hard. Thanks for understanding me so nicely. Love you ❤
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What a wonderful thought process and a lovely write up. We all go through testing times, but coming out as a winner or after learning a lesson means a lot. Thank you so much for joining the #Speakeasy challenge with us.
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Thank you so much Dipika 🙂🤗 Thank you to you and Ruchi for accepting my request and add me here with you all. It’s been a great experience sharing this space with you all. 💜💜
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Circumstances can be overwhelming and we just go into our deep dark side, I am glad you found the right motivation and your tips to remain positive are super helpful.
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Thank you Mahek 🙂
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First a big bear hug from my side. You poured your heart out in the post Writing quotes and sharing do help ourselves as well as others. That’s something I adopted recently and can feel the change it lead.
Glad you found your inner sunshine.
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Thank you Pragnya! A big hug to you too dear. 🤗💜
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Swarnali, a big bear hug to you. This post was so heart-touching. Every word has been oozed out from deep within. One of the best-read of this challenge. You can only find your way to happiness no one else can. So happy for you that you found your sunshine back. Keep writing and spreading positivity. Your words are magical. You can start an e-magazine for inner peace and self-improvement.
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Thank you soooooo much Di. Yes I also have a wish to start an e magazine. Let’s see. A big hug to you too. Love you. ❤❤
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A big hug to you my dear friend, I can feel your pain, so happy to know that you passed your testing time with flying colors this shows your strength, a mere positive thought works wonder. Your quotes inspire me dear keep writing keep spreading your positivity all around.
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Thank you Archana 🙂 hugs back deariee 🤗
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Fighting back that low phase of life takes courage and as you said more positivity from inside! Loved your approach mostly, rule your life, let go and love yourself! Lovely written! And following too.
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Thank you Sadvika! 🙂
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Swarnali , I liked the way you have crafted the post , completely honest. Yes sometimes things don’t go in certain way and we feel unhappy within. Talking to solace and spending time correcting it is so important plus writing positive thoughts definitely helps us to think in only positive zone.
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Thank you so much Meenal and Sonal 🙂
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Wonderful write-up after the wonderful realisation:)
You described your feelings in words with pure heart and you succeeded! Congratulations!
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Thank you dear. 🙂
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Oh my God, I loved all your quotes, they are so meaningful. I truly believe that learning to celebrate every small gift of life is the true path to finding happiness
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Thanks for loving my quotes. 🙂
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You know in life we get all sorts of phases. Life itself is a mystery. Sadness and depression being just the one which affects us the most. But hope within us is one thing that never lets us give up and in fact pushes us to find a way to manage the sad phase. My life hasnt been easy but I saw a forward one days, years ago which had a swan holding frog, trying to eat him while the frog caught the neck of swan so tightly that she couldn’t eat him. This meant never give up. In whatever circumstances you are now Happiness will find its way.
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Wow beautiful. Thanks for sharing the story Judy. I actually do this. 🙂
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Every dark cloud has a silver lining and glad that you found yours with introspection. Giving time to yourself and thinking positive are necessary for happy lifestyle.
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Yes absolutely Disha. Thanks for reading. 🙂
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Thank god you pulled yourself out of the depressive spell. Its very easy to fall into the trap of negativity, we all should motivate ourselves with positive ideas to move forward in our lives and find happiness within.
Lovely post.
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Thank you Richa 🙂
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